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Saturday, March 23, 2013

WE DON'T KNOW THAT WE DON'T KNOW:)

 It's been a while since I posted, but that's because I've been in the midst of making some huge changes in my life. When you're bogged down with a lot of responsibility, it's hard to stretch yourself any further than you already are. That's been the case with me. BUT....I must say that the changes being made in my life are awesome!!

I have people ask me all the time how I dare do the things that I do, so I will share some thoughts on that very subject.

The name of my blog is, "Dare to Dream" and I named it such because I think that it's important to have dreams, but I also believe it's important to pursue them. Why I say pursue them is because your dreams change and the reason for that is because WE change.

My kids joke and tell me that when I die, they're gonna put on my headstone; "When something in your life isn't working anymore, stop, regroup and head in a new direction!" I learned that early on in my career. You can work hard to make things how you want them and everything will seem to be running smoothly, but there will come a time when things aren't working anymore and changes need to be made. That's when you accept the fact that you need to stop, regroup and head in a new direction:)

When we want and need to make personal changes, it doesn't mean that it's gonna happen right away...it's a process. I remember hearing the phrase, "If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll get what you've always got." Another one; "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." How many of us do that...keep doing what we're doing, expecting different results? If that's the case, trust me...it's NOT gonna happen! It's up to US to make it happen.

I know what you're saying...How? I'm stuck in a rut, I'm stuck in a job or a bad relationship (or whatever it is.) How can I make it happen?

Here's a few things to think about...

One change in my life is that I'm studying to become a Master Educator in the cosmetology field. I was reading about how strong personal desire and self-motivation are key ingredients of making one great as apposed to average. It explains that desire creates what has been defined as unconscious incompetence. This theory states that we don't know that we don't know. A perfect example of this is the bumble bee because scientific evidence, based on aerodynamics, has proven overwhelmingly that the bumble bee cannot fly. Its wingspan isn't wide enough and the wings are far too light for it's heavy body weight, and therefore it is impossible for it to fly. BUT...the bumble bee has unconscious incompetence. It doesn't know that it can't fly and since no one has told it that it can't...it flies!! How cool is that!!

 So to make changes, first of all you need to have strong personal desire. Desire is something longed for or hoped for and it becomes the foundation of self-motivation. A motive is a need or desire that causes a person to take action, so motivation is that internal drive that will help us fulfill our desires. I also believe that we need confidence in ourselves and our abilities. We need to not be afraid of failure. We actually learn more from our failures than we do our successes. We need to realize that the trials we encounter will introduce us to our strengths so in essence, failure can actually be a positive thing:) One of my favorite sayings is, "If you never try, you'll never know." I think I've posted that before, but it's true! If you don't ever try anything because you fear the end result, you will never know if you could have done it. So....don't know that you don't know...and do it...FLY!!

I'm not saying that you should continually chase wild dreams. You need to be realistic and smart about what you desire. There is a time and a season for everything and if you have other people in your life, you need to make sure that the changes you want to make affect them in a positive way also. Remember:
  • If you're not happy ... make yourself happy. You can't expect others to do that.
  •  Don't sit on the sidelines watching and waiting.
  • Don't stagnate and let your life slip into discontent and unhappiness. Life is too short.
  • If you need to make changes ... assess your needs and desires and do what you need to do to accomplish your goals.
  • Learn to change and grow with your dreams.
  • Grow from your mistakes.
  • Don't know that you don't know...and it will happen:)

Talk soon:)xo

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